Tripping or pushing, spreading rumors, excluding a classmate from playing a game at recess – all of these behaviors are concerning and upsetting. Hearing that your child is a witness to a classmate being treated this way is also upsetting. We all want our kids to be safe. NOTE: Not all conflicts are bullying or harassment.

Bullying

• Aggression toward another person that occurs repeatedly over time
• The harm is intentional and planned
• The aggression is usually unprovoked
• One person/persons who are the aggressors have more power than the victim of the aggression
  
  

Cyberbullying

• Cyberbullying is bullying using technology (e-mail, text messaging, the internet, social media, etc.)
  
  

Harassment

• Aggression focused on a student’s race, national origin, religion, disability, or sex
• Aggression that is severe, persistent, or pervasive
  
  

Peer Conflict

• A one-time or isolated act of aggression between students
• The balance of power is equal or nearly equal between the students
• Peer conflict is not a group of students picking on one student
• Students involved in the conflict are willing to work out their differences or leave each other alone
  
  

What if you suspect your child is being bullied?

• First, focus on your child
• Be supportive and listen
• Gather information (who, what, when, where)
• Discourage physical retaliation
• Contact your child’s Principal and/or School Counselor
• Provide factual information about the incident
• Work with school staff to create a safety plan for your student 
• If the bullying continues contact the Principal again
• Teach your child strategies to avoid bullying
• Encourage participation in school and community activities
• Encourage and support positive friendships
• Teach your child to seek help from an adult if he or she is being bullied

What can you do to help stop bullying?